What I Wore: Pregnancy Must Haves and Outfit Formulas

So after a brief (jk it’s been like 5 months😂) hiatus, I’M BACK! I seriously missed writing blog posts, but the realities of moving out of our old house, living with Tim’s parents, renovating our new house every available second, oh and teaching full time, I had to make peace with the fact that I just did not have time, mental or physical space to write full blog posts- but here we are- I’ve missed it!

Lots of new post ideas to come- pregnancy related, c-section related, second baby related and OF COURSE, home renovation related, including before and afters as promised! But I had to start somewhere so here we go with a brand new “What I’m Wearing” post, preggo edition:

If you’re pregnant, or plan on becoming pregnant (doesn’t that sound like a side effects warning at the end of a pharmaceutical commercial?!😂) you’ll need a few go to outfit formulas and pieces you can rely on for the duration of the 7+ months where the bump really becomes a challenge to dress around. I refuse to spend a ton on maternity clothes; instead, I used a few solid building blocks to remix outfits around:

• Start by getting a few basic, fitted, dresses in varying styles and in neutral colors- this way you can layer different pieces over or with them.

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• Have a few neutral (and maybe a print!) bodycon skirts to highlight the bump (more flattering than drapey /baggy- no a-line or fluffy skirts while preggo in my opinion!)

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• Add a few items to layer over your base pieces, to keep things interesting:

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• Graphic tees (buy them longer/ size up to accommodate the bump) that you can knot over dresses or skirts or just wear over the bump with leggings were my true mvps:

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• Really, you only need two types of pants while pregnant: a great pair or two of black leggings, and a pair of skinny maternity jeans that stay up and fit well:

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• You guys won’t be surprised to know that overalls made my list of maternity must haves- but seriously, for those days when you can’t bear to wear another dress, and your damn pants just won’t stay up, overalls are a preggo mama’s best friend:

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• Accessories really worked overtime during both of my pregnancies- when you feel like you’ve cycled through all of your maternity staples, fun shoes and hair accessories really make you feel less… bleh:

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Using all of the pieces above, here are some of my fave maternity looks for inspo:

Hope this helps you mamas-to-be out there! It’s funny, now that the bump, well, Eamon, is out– I almost miss dressing it! Now to figure out what works post-partum…



What We’re Doing: Summertime Outdoor Movie Nights

Just a quick one here- wanted to make a place where you guys could easily access the best summer outdoor movie schedules in NYC, plus share a few tips from us pros!

Tim and I have been going to outdoor movie showings in NYC for years, and when Nolan came along of course we had to introduce him to the tradition! Now, of course, you can just stay home on your comfy couch and Netflix any movie easily on your own time- but to us, that’s not the point. It almost doesn’t matter what the movie is, it’s such a cool communal, shared experience that just feels so SUMMER. There are various locations around the city, really in every borough, that host these nights; almost all are free; some require signing up online first to reserve a spot. Some pro tips from us:

1. Get there early: if the movie start time is 8:30 (sunset in the summer), get there by 6:30 to get a decent spot!

2. Bring comfort, but read the rules first: most venues don’t allow chairs bc they block other people’s views, but all encourage you to bring picnic/beach blankets or pillows!

3. Pack food and drinks: this is the time to bring a picnic- we’ve done sandwiches, to Korean takeout, to a pizza pie- anything goes- sometimes we try and plan food around the movie theme if we’re feeling ambitious! In terms of alcohol, check what each venue allows, but all allow non alcoholic drinks, just no glass bottles.

4. Bring games: bc you’ll be likely hanging out waiting for the movie to start, being card and board games! Obvi Nolan is partial to Uno😏, but we’ve totally nerded out and brought full on Settler of Catan (ha!) and other board games- it just adds to the experience.

5. If you’re bringing kids, try not to stress about bedtime: when we brought him to Moana at South street seaport this past week, we were out till 10:30, since the movie didn’t start till 8… but IT WAS FINE- aren’t your best summer memories all around staying up wayyyy past your usual bedtime?!

Ok so lastly, here are some links to some comprehensive NYC outdoor movie schedules we use:






Xo, ❤


What We’re Doing: Montauk Favorites (and where we stop along the way)

High waisted shorts: Aritzia “Gela”| off shoulder top (old Revolve; similar here and here) | mules: Gucci | bag | headband | sunnies

Happy summer friends! We always kick off the first real week of summer vacation at our favorite place in the world- Montauk! For those of you who aren’t NY/Long islanders, Montauk is the last town on the east end of Long Island, at the end of the Hamptons. It has an old school, beach-chic vibe; very family friendly, but also perfect for kid-free getaways as well. We’ve been going for years, and this past trip I got a lot of requests for our Montauk/Hamptons favorites all in one blog post, so here goes:

Where we stay: We’ve been staying with Sole East Resort for over ten years- it has a large pool, in house restaurant, bikes to rent, beautiful beach-chic rooms, and gorgeous grounds. It’s also well-priced for Montauk/the hamptons and the staff is really nice- also its a 2 min/ten min walk to town! I’ve also stayed at Gurneys Montauk yacht club, the Surf Lodge, and Ruschmeyers, but truly Sole East is the best for the best price in my opinion!

Food and room at Sole East Resort

Gingham dress | sandals | bag (old Zara, similar here)

Eats: For breakfast, if we don’t eat poolside at Sole, we always always go to Bliss Kitchen in town for breakfast burritos! We also love Anthony’s Pancakes for a classic diner breakfast, Joni’s or Happy Bowls if we’re feeling healthy. Montauk Bakery is also great to grab a bagel or pastry and coffee if you just want a quick bite!

Our fave lunch/dinner spots include: Tacombi tacos, Crow’s Nest (gorgeous vibes, upscale menu), Harvest on Fort Pont (absolute must in Montauk; family style and very kid friendly), Swallow East (small plates, sharing), South Edison and Duryea’s Lobster for seafood, Ruschmeyers, John’s for after dinner ice cream, Gig Shack for drinks and apps w a side of live music, Montauk Brewery for happy hour and Left Hand for coffee!

Zebra top | black denim shorts | bag: vintage Fendi via Tradesy

Other Montauk “musts”: kitschy mini golf at Puff-n-Putt, hiking Camp Hero grounds, surfing at Ditch Plains, sunset catamaran happy hour (we’ve done Montiki) up at the Harbor, sunset at Navy Beach, and hit up the farmers market in town on weekends!

On the way out: we usually break up the drive out east and stop at a vineyard (Duckwalk or Wolffer) for a drink and snack, or stop in Southampton’s Golden Pear Cafe for breakfast or Sant Ambroeus for lunch if we’re feeling fancy; and Book Hampton in East Hampton is a great stop to pick up your beach reads.

Ok so that’s it! Hope this helps you guys if you’re planning a Montauk getaway this summer- if you feel like I left out anything feel free to drop a comment for others to see!

Xo, ❤


What I’m Thinking: Social Media Democracy and the Power to Judge

Tee shirt | jeans | loafers | sunnies

Comment. It’s an interesting word- as an English teacher, I teach my students to look for “connotations” of words- meaning the “feeling” (positive, negative, sometimes neutral) that a word gives off; kind of like it’s “vibe”. What connotation would you say that the word “comment” has?

Pretty negative, no?

Before the age of social media, the word “comment” seemed pretty much relegated to social situations where people were sharing unsolicited opinions about someone or something. The actual definition of a “comment” is “a written or verbal expression of opinion or reaction”. More times then not, when someone shares an opinion or reaction, it’s critical ( or else it would be called a “compliment”, right?). The idea of commenting on people, places, occurrences and experiences is nothing new- but since social media has become the all-powerful democratizing platform for expression, “commenting” is so much more PERMANENT, VISIBLE, and relentless.

Before social media and the internet, if you wanted to “comment” on something, you had fewer, less appealing options that required either more work or less impact:

1. to get out a pen and paper and write that sh*t down, seek out an envelope and stamp and walk yourself to the nearest mailbox to mail said comment to the desired recipient- chances are you had to REALLY want to comment on something in order to take all of these steps- so maybe that coffee you had at the overpriced cafe wasn’t so bad after all…

2. Just say it out loud, either to the present company, who either agreed or disagreed, then you not moved on, or mutter it under your breath to yourself, in which case the comment went nowhere really other than to let off whatever steam you had brewing over that less than satisfactory cup of overpriced coffee.

Fast forward 20 years…

Now, it’s way too easy. Had a bad cup of coffee? Anyone and their grandma who has Instagram or Facebook can publicly criticize that less than stellar cup of overpriced coffee in a very (semi; sure people can delete comments but people can’t unsee them!) permanent, rapidly spreading way with absolutely NO restrictions!!! ANYONE CAN SAY ANYTHING THEY WANT.

The coffee analogy is a tame subject to illustrate my point- we’ve all seen social media comments that WOULD NEVER and COULD NEVER have been made, let alone given attention years ago, aimed at other human beings’ physical attributes, political opinions, careers, upbringings, cultures- an endless barrage of opinions and reactions.

Most would argue, myself included, that democracy, in terms of giving “the people” a voice, is a positive thing. Humans across all cultures and time periods have fought and sacrificed so that they could have “a voice”.


Where does having a voice end, and commenting just because you CAN begin?

What are the consequences for us ALL having the constant ability to hit “like” and “comment”, with such ease and purposeless? What is it doing to our societal expectations, to our individual psyches and to our relationships with each other?

Just because you have an opinion or reaction to someone or something, does that mean that we have to or even SHOULD share it?

Imagine 20 years ago, flipping through the pages of a magazine or watching actual TV or a movie, and coming across a model, advertisement, commercial, actress or actor or product that you had an (probably negative, bc after all, we love criticizing what we can’t attain for ourselves) opinion or reaction to- what could you do?! Yell at the magazine?! Scream at the TV?! Chances are that you were not going to write them a letter expressing how you didn’t like their hairstyle or politics- you just muttered to yourself or “commented” to your present company. And the negative thought died there in that moment.

My mom, who is now close to 70, actually inspired me to write this post. She’s made the the observation more than a few times that “people nowadays” feel like they constantly have a “right” to express their opinion- whereas “back in the day” people knew when and what to keep to themselves. She believes it made for a more pleasant society— and while I do absolutely acknowledge that society back then was more repressed, and the opinions of all people were definitely NOT acknowledged or respected or dammit even HEARD- I do feel like power to “comment” and “like” has given us a weird sense of entitlement to constantly be judge and jury of every. Single. Encounter.

***so at this point, I had originally stopped writing and had my husband, Tim, read over what I had so far***

His feedback included:

“Don’t you see the irony in that YOU and your blog are part of the comment culture- just writing this post is a comment in itself”

“Why do you always glorify the past as if it was a better time? You have to change and move with the times instead of getting angry about “how things are now.”

To be completely honest, his feedback hurt. I had to process what he said and really think about if I even still wanted to hit publish on this post- AM I being hypocritical by writing this? Or being old fashioned and angry at the changing times?

I tried to get to the heart of what I was originally trying to say in this post.

I suppose it’s not that I think we should all silence and censor ourselves and each other— social Media really has empowered so many groups and individuals that otherwise would have no platform to express themselves. Tim is right- The ability to comment and voice our opinions has helped shape everything from political and social movements to fashion trends.

Maybe what I mean is that we should perhaps use caution when commenting- to try and not forget that just because it’s easy, doesn’t mean it’s to be taken lightly. Maybe a good rule to live by is to comment online only what you would say out loud. And maybe to remember that just because you can easily show approval or disapproval in the digital space, doesn’t mean that that constant and instant level of judgement needs to transfer to “real life” encounters as well.

This post isn’t ending in a comfortable place- and I’m actually ok with that. After all, some aspects of life just remain unresolved, and that’s alright. There’s no conclusion, and as Tim clearly reminded me, I definitely don’t have the answers- actually, I’m leaving this post with more questions than I started out with. To add to the irony, if actually live if you guys would leave a COMMENT (!) , share or discuss this idea with me- positive, negative or neutral reactions are welcome!